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Are You a Blurter?

Wednesday, July 29, 2009  at 1:20 PM
Communicate with more clarity and authority. I have a friend who is a self-described “blurter.” “I’m like a gumball machine -- whatever pops in my head comes out of my mouth,” she says. I have several clients who share a similar affliction, and to be honest I have been known to blurt too at times.

I am working to stop, pause, and think before I speak out.
When I am acting as if everything is a 9-1-1, I am more likely to speak without thinking. When I feel the adrenaline pumping, I try to remember to take the pause that refreshes.

I stop, take a good cleansing breath, feel my feet on the floor, and hear the sounds around me. This pause helps me become present and grounded, and I am less likely to blurt out.


Alcoholics Anonymous has some wonderful sayings. One of my favorites is: Think before you speak.

T = Thoughtful

H = Honest
I = Intelligent
N = Necessary
K = Kind

2 comments:

Elizabeth Bridgers said...

What? Are you saying the gumball approach isn't the best way to go?

Seriously, the THINK acronym is great. I find that I believe most of my gumball explanations are THIN but don't always include the K. I'll try to assess the kindness of my knee-jerk responses and exclamations. What a wonderful thing to consider in my future communications!

Randy Siegel said...

I totally relate. A dear friend was talking the other day about how she wanted to practice more loving-kindness in her communications with her significant other. It made me think how little I think about loving-kindness when I communicate.